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Jan102011

mom/grandmother

My mom left this morning.  I haven't been in the picture mood as of late and finally this morning when I realized I really wanted a picture together both of our eyes were so swollen from crying we could barely open them.  It's been so wonderful these past few weeks having my mom here.  Our home is just BETTER with her around.  It's just been an hour and I miss her terribly, I miss having her body here to touch and hug.  I'll miss not being able to sneak up into her bed late at night.  I'm 24 and I still do that.  I asked her to write a little something for here and she passed me this last night on a piece of paper.

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Mother

What happens when your child veers off the path of the cultural dotted line of life?

In the beginning: fear, anxiety, sleepless nights, and prayer "May the Divine highest good of all unfold.  The Divine highest good of all is unfolding."  (Repeat 1 million times)  Mostly, alot of awkwardness in social settings with the traditional mundane chatter.

What happens when your child continues to take the road less travelled?

More social awkwardness, less fear, more trust, and more comfort with the rhythm of a different drum.

What happens when you spend a month dancing to the beat of your child's heart?

Gratitude for your own inner strength, faith, courage and wisdom to set your child free.  Grateful for your patience to allow life to gracefully unravel, free of your own expectations in its own perfect way. Acknowledging you have learned the arts of listening, mentoring and silence.

And finally... sharing the magic of walking through life in gentle fearlessness.

- Nancy Doyne

  January 10, 2011

Reader Comments (22)

I may be a long way away, and only there (or here) for you "virtually", but you've a place in my heart, and I'll always be here for you, as long as you need someone to rant at, celebrate with or just share the feelings you have inside.

Just keep posting, and we'll keep responding. Those reading are here for you, whenever, whereever.

Lots of virtual hugs from around the blogosphere.

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterK

That's beautiful. I went to boarding school and then college in England. I was lucky enough to have plenty of opportunities to have holidays at home, but leaving my mother was always the hardest part of those. I am 24 now too, and back in Charlotte, NC, but growing up and doing things independently of my mom often feels strange, which in turn feels strange. I think it's natural, and I think we never stop needing our mothers.

I really admire your strength and your courage to do the amazing things you have been doing for so long now, so far away from your childhood home.

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterHarriet May

Just awesome.

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJessica

You amaze everyone Maggie.Thank you to your mum for letting you follow the path less traveled

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterRatimo

This brought a tear to my eye. I have often tried to imagine how this has been for your parents, to be blessed with such a courageous, conscious daughter. Beautiful. Maggie, you are doing something that touches each and every one of us who is privileged to witness it, and then you further gift us with the honesty of sharing the more difficult moments. Thank you, Maggie, and thank you, Nancy!

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCatherine

yay finally i can call my mama

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered Commentersistakt

So nice!

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterGail Mooney

wow. i don't have kids but i've often wondered what it is like you for your parents. like catherine said, they have raised such an inspiring person .... doing such great work but at the same time, i'm sure at times she just misses her baby.

i'm glad that you were all able to spend the holidays together. i hope you do make it an annual thing. it looks like you all have such fun together and such love for each other!

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDenise

Wow. An amazing family. Now I see where your your sense of spirit comes from Maggie.

TK

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTom

Absolutely beautiful. Thank you Mrs. Doyne for sharing your journey with us. I know my parents felt very similarly when I left (fear, sleepless nights) and to see your gratitude for Maggie's own process and yours as a parent is truly inspirational. Thank you.

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterallie mahler

Speechless

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSP

You mother is a wise woman. But that doesn't surprise me at all. x

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMarianne

What a beautiful writing, Nancy! As a mother, yes it is difficult to see your child go off the dotted path but you have a confidence in her that she knows what heavenly music to follow. Give yourself a credit for that.

Would love to see more of your postings. Thanks.

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMu

Thank for sharing those words with us, i have a daughter too and understand at least partly your feelings,
Maggie i admire you
Robert

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterRobert

I was too choked up to respond the first time I read this -
What happens when you spend a month dancing to the beat of your child's heart?
How wonderful. I have great admiration for your bravery.
Denise x

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDenise

I love your mom! I hope I can be as trusting, open, and courageous and you and your mom!

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered Commentersimone

Wow. What sweet, sweet love.

January 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNatasha

Granmothers

The steps...calm,
the look...sweet,
the hands...wilted,
the wombs...empty,
their smile: starry sky.

January 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSara Mary

Fantastic!

January 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterRBK

Unbelievably beautiful!

January 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterIris

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